to love and respect and host a giveaway!

nine years,
and they are shocked
we have made it,
they don't understand
not making it
was never an option

nine years,
and there has been pain,
words which gouged hearts,
cut us open,
left us bleeding
and hurt that broke us,
that took our breathe away,
that stripped us of every ounce
of security
until all we had to hold on to was
God and
each other

but there was always love
and somehow
in the very depths of
who we are
we knew
we would get through it,
good times would come

and there is a season
for everything
the sun,
sometimes our eyes
connect and we
know love through our looks
and sometimes we
heart-wrenching tears or
yell in
unjustified anger and
find each other,
whisper apologies and
holding love close,
wrapped in
and i know him,
and he knows me
and here we are
loving each other
as only we can.

I was given the opportunity to review a book
on marriage,
a topic which I know intimately,
and yet am still learning,
growing in
Love and Respect for a Lifetime
by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs,
so easy to read and
beautifully inspirational.
I have read books on marriage,
most have faded from mind,
not much to take from them,
and then came
Dr. Eggerichs' book
filled with nuggets of gold,
drawing me to the heart
of God,
of my husband,
and showing me I am
not alone,
a desperate, emotional,
love-craving wife

"Do you realize the power of just holding your wife's hand?"
  -Dr Eggerichs

I found myself laughing
while reading
because everything he says
How we wives make comments,
ask absurd questions
because we just want to know
he loves us,
and how he feels these
are disrespectful,
undermining what he as a husband
is longing for,
if we just realize we are different,
not as James and Amy,
but as man and woman,
we can celebrate the differences
God has put in us,
and learn to live with them
in mind,
showing our husbands respect
and being shown love.

"No human being responds to contempt, and no husband feels love and affection in his heart toward a wife he thinks despises all he is as a human being."
-Dr Eggerichs

I sat outside
in our warm January sun,
watching my children play and
reading Love and Respect for a Lifetime,
and I found myself
every few pages to read to my husband,
and we just laughed and
"that is so true."

And I think if we can just
be mindful of
each other's needs,
seeking to give our spouse
the feelings they
long for,
the desires God puts in them,
we can help our relationships
and I thank Dr. Eggerichs
for writing this
gem of a book,giving us
practical ideas how to do that.

I was graciously given an extra copy so that I could give one away.  I love this book and I know you will too.  I am so delighted to share this dear book and here's how to enter...

become (or already be) a follower here and leave another comment,
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giveaway will end on Valentine's day.

Thank you friends... I love you guys, and hey, I respect you too! :)

 and i'm linking this with ann, discussing the spiritual practice of marriage...


  1. I am reading this book with some friends as we speak! This book speaks powerful truths and I already feel change approaching.

  2. Sounds good, Amy. I've been married for many years, but it's never to late to learn more.

    P.S. I love your honest words.

  3. This is THE most beautiful, poetic, moving review of one of my most favorite books in the entire world! WOW! You completely brought me to tears!!! I'm definitely your newest blog fan:))

  4. I've heard so many good things about this book and would the chance to win a copy :)

    (And I just love your blog! But I've told you that already:)

  5. Would love to win this version!

    The Lazy Mom

  6. I actually just gave a presentation about the first Love & Respect book to the moms in my local M.O.P.S Mothers of Preschoolers) group last week. The book changed my marriage for the better about 4 years ago. I am very excited to read Love & Respect for a Lifetime.

  7. After 19 years I finally have words to fit the feelings. This book opened my eyes on a lot of "why's", def read. Great words by you as well. Thanks.

  8. My husband and I are going through a very difficult time right now. We have been encouraged to read this book and are even attending a conference this weekend, although I don't feel very hopefull. We need God to move in a miraculous way! I am trying and will continue to hold on even if all I have to hold onto is a shredded thread. Thanks for your beautiful words of encouragement. They bring me hope. I look forward to reading your blog. Thank you for sharing!

  9. My husband and I just started this bible study with young couples at our church. It's so good!!

  10. I have been married for 21 years and I know there is more I need to learn. I AM EXCITED ABOUT THIS BOOK..SOUNDS GREAT!! I would LOVE to win this book.(LOVE THIS BLOG IT IS BEAUTIFUL TOUCHED MY HEART.)

  11. "they don't understand
    not making it
    was never an option"
    True words.
    I linked over from Ann's blog.

  12. I'd like to read this book. I'm following your blog now.

  13. I have heard wonderful things about this book. We missed the short study last spring as we welcomed our daughter into the world. Would love to win. Thanks so much for the opportunity.

  14. Beautiful post!
    Thanks for the chance to win..

  15. I love the way you wrote this in poetic form. It makes me want to go write a free verse poem about the funeral I went to yesterday. Oh, and you make me want to read that book...

  16. I really liked your post. My husband and I have been married 4 months and 5 days today, I wanted to read L&R before I got married, but I never did, you made me want to read it again, I tried searching for it at the library just now... guess they don't have it. Have a perfect Valentine's Day!